There
is an interesting aspect of our human personality that longs for us to be liked
by everyone. We struggle to please people so that praise and not
criticism flows from their lips. Most of us cringe at the thought of
doing something or saying something that would incur another's wrath. We
will do most anything to be an accepted person, especially in the circle of
folk we want to call friends. It is amazing how much of our time and
energy is spent in trying to make people believe we are one of them.
There is a sense in which we act like politicians trying to get elected
to the office of "best liked." We want to be everybody's
candidate and number one in the opinion poll.
It's
not an easy way to live for several reasons. For one thing, when we try
to be everybody's somebody we lose a bit of our integrity. In trying to
embrace everyone's opinion we compromise our own convictions. Our need to
be loved outweighs our commitment to truth. We lose our identity by
selling our souls in the bargain basement of popularity. We become so
open-minded that our brains fall out. When this occurs we become only an
echo of other people's positions. We have no platform on which to stand
up for what we think. In essence, we become non-persons.
In
our attempt to please everyone we jeopardize friendship. In trying to be
everyone's friend we end up being no one's real friend. We appear to be
wishy-washy and uncommitted to the disciplines of lasting friendships.
People are suspicious if we feel compelled to agree with them on
everything. We provide no challenge to their thought processes and thus
have nothing of substance to offer a friendship. We may have a lot of
acquaintances but few real friends.
Jesus
said for us to beware when everyone speaks well of us. Of course He did
not mean for us to purposely offend folk. He was saying there are certain
things basic to our Christian person hood which cannot be denied.
We must not compromise who we are in order to be well liked. When
we know the truth about ourselves and God and life and issues we are free to
make a courageous commitment regardless of consequences. Only those who
like us for who we are and for what we stand can ever be considered real.
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- T Walling