"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Proverbs 11:14

Monday 30 January 2012

Important Tips To Be A Good Listener!

I being a listener of all those sweet nothings myself...would like to share some of the tips about becoming a good listener, which I got from here and there with you all, in good hope that we all become good listeners of each other, and stop trying to step out of other's opinions and suggestions!
  • Encourage the speaker.
  • Ask questions. It shows interest.
  • Do not interrupt.
  • Do not change the topic.
  • Show understanding and respect.
  • Pay attention, concentrate.
  • Avoid distraction.
  • Show empathy.
  • Be open-minded. Do not let preconceived ideas and prejudice prevent you from listening.
  • Concentrate on the message and not the delivery.
  • Recognize the nonverbal communication, such as facial expressions, eye contact, etc. They might be communicating a different message from the verbal.
  • Listen to feelings and not just words.

What Is More Precious?


The story goes that sometime ago; a man punished his three-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you Daddy."

The man was embarrassed by his earlier over-reaction. Nevertheless, his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside?" The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it is not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They're all for you, Daddy."

The father was crushed. He put his arms round his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the little child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In the very real sense, each one of us, as human being have been given a golden container filled with in conditional love and kisses from our children, family members, friends and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold more precious than this.

Tuesday 24 January 2012

Save The Baby!

Next time before you think of going for an abortion, or you know some people thinking of going for it, you may spent some few minutes going through this....Each picture says it for itself...no need to add any more additional comments... 




























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Saturday 14 January 2012

PROTECTION FROM ADVERTISEMENT


Advertisement is a skilful way of blowing one’s own trumpet. To speak of one’s goods has been raised to the level of fine art. The most successful businessman is he who knows the secret of effective advertisement. The real worth of an article is of little importance; what matters is the way in which public attention is drawn towards it. Men do not part with their money easily, but the clever advertiser can draw it out of the pockets of the even most cautious and miserly customers.
Manifold are the means by which advertisements are relayed. The press is the most efficient and penetrating medium of advertisement as it can reach the largest readership. Among other media of advertisement may be mentioned the radio, the cinema, the television, show cards, electric flashlights, etc. Newer devices are being adopted every day for the purpose of advertisement.
There is a great need to advertise one’s goods. In an age of commercial competition, goods cannot be sold without proper advertisement. If properly done, advertisement can help the public in choosing and buying the best in the market. As we advance, we make new discoveries and inventions. We bring out devices for good and comfortable living and we should tell the public what they are. Advertisements play a very important part in this respect. They bring profit to the producers and offer a wide choice for the public. Without advertisement our trade and commerce would never flourish.
During the last fifty years or so advertisements have become aggressive, seductive and deceitful, so much so that they can literally induce an Eskimo to buy a refrigerator. The new methods, means and tricks of advertising enable the unscrupulous traders and manufacturers to prey upon the credulity of lay public, thereby effecting huge sales and pocketing heavy profits. In competitive advertising, the advertiser tries to impress upon the readers the superiority of his own products over those of his rival producers and thus casts a spell on the minds of the target group to buy his wares in preference to his rivals. Once the market for his products is established, he secures a steady clientele, a constant demand for his products and an assured income from its sales.
Today’s advertising methods have a marvellous effect on the sales of goods and services thus advertised. But advertisements for harmful products have their baneful effects on the buyers. Hence people have started feeling the need for protecting themselves from the evil effects of exploitative and misleading advertisements. Destructive advertising is designed to secure public patronage through false and misleading statements in an exaggerated manner.
The most fashionable method of present day advertising campaigns is to show the images of very young and very beautiful women in the ads. Perhaps it is no exaggeration to say that the display of the body of a woman has become an integral part of today’s advertising, even if the goods and services advertised are not even remotely concerned with women. The most important and attractive feature of the advertisement is the picture of a young and beautiful woman prominently displayed on the left. Perhaps the idea is that the reader will be irresistibly tempted to look at the picture and while doing that, will also incidentally read the message. For instance, in newspapers and magazines, have a look at the front page of any fast-selling ones, you will see semi-nude pictures of young and beautiful actresses in ‘inviting’ poses. Well, let me not be too gender specific, we can add handsome and well build male actors there, for that matter. For these newspapers and magazines, the time-honoured Indian morality and values are, no doubt, noble things, but the paper sells well only if it carries semi-nude colour photos of fetching girls and the newspapermen have also to earn their two square meals. The display of lingerie-clad beauties can bring these meals most easily. Therefore, a compromise on values becomes unavoidable.
It is universally agreed that the consumer is often a very incompetent judge of the quality goods. Taking undue advantage of this weakness of his, the cleverly laid out advertisements can induce him to purchase goods of doubtful value. But this creates brand monopolies, which stand in the way of free competition in respect of price and quality. Since the brand has established itself as the beauty soap of film stars and not any particular star, it is not dependent on the waxing and waning of a star’s fortune. Thus, the businessmen use whosoever is in the limelight at a particular time, be it Aishwarya Rai, Kareena Kapoor, or Katrina Kaif. Having thus been hypnotised by these brand monopolies, the consumer refuses to accept any substitute even a better quality and is ready to pay a higher price for inferior quality goods (I do not intend to directly imply that these actors advertises for low products) and this syndrome creates unnecessary want of the customers, who may or may not be able to afford.
With competition becoming so intense in every field, one has to start focussing on a certain facet of the celebrity’s personality and relate it to the brand in question. Another illustration, Saif’s personality, for instance, goes well with the brand image of Clinic shampoo. Similarly, the winner of the Miss Beautiful Hair Contest is used to sell another brand of shampoo. Viswanathan Anand for Memory Plus is a good equation between a personality and a product. But on the other hand, by becoming “Seductive as eve” it creates a peculiar habit and fashion and compels a buyer to buy certain products at a price not justified by their quality. There are some advertisements, which even help in selling “Rivers of tonics and mountains of pills” good, bad and indifferent by invoking the people’s fear of death and diseases. We definitely need to protect ourselves against the invasion of such advertisements.
And there is another danger from the abuse of advertisements. More is spent on advertisements than in making of goods. This is done on the mere belief that the more money one spends on advertisement, the wider the market for his goods. This is, no doubt, true. But this is also likely to result in two evils. Either the goods will cost more than they are worth or the quality of goods will be third-rate. The reason is that advertising cost a good deal. The money invested in advertising will increase the cost and price of goods. Else, if prices are not raised to meet the cost of advertisements, the alternative is to use cheap and second-rate materials in the making of goods. In either case, excessive advertisement is harmful to the people. In an age of commercial competitions, when several people produce the same kind of goods, either of these evils is inevitable.
But these evils of advertisements do not mean that advertising is bad. The abuse of anything does not mean that it is useless. We must use advertisement for letting the public know what goods are available. The motive of advertisement should be public service, not private gain. If this motive is present, advertisements do good to all concerned-the producers and consumers alike. There will be no danger of lowering the standards of commercial morality so long as the producers and distributors choose service to the public as their aim. The danger comes when private gain is made at the cost of public good.

Towards a Better World:


Half of the world does not have enough to eat. Each year, as a result, many millions die young. The bodies and minds of many more are permanently damaged by hunger.
The poorer nations often say to the richer nations, this suffering can be and must be stopped. When all of us, in the rich and poor nations, make up our minds to stop it, we can stop it.
The earth is ruled mainly by the people out of touch with the young world. How many of us would agree to that? Ofcourse, they know that men starve and die in millions. But they think it is more important to make guns and bombs, to send us to fight against one another, than think of providing seeds and water, schools and hospitals, so that we might feed and serve one another.
If you live in a poor country, demand enough food for your countrymen. Do not turn your backs on the people who provide food; instead, work with them for rural development.
If you are educated in special knowledge and skills, remember that science and technology that can send men into space, need only to be released into the poor countries to work even greater miracles.
 If you are a parent, resolve to end the sufferings of children. Know, too, how to plan the size of your family, so that the progress of all is not endangered.
Let us make plain to the rulers that the division of the world into rich and poor must end. The many billions spent on armaments must be spent to develop the world. Let them know, too, that if political or financial systems prevent a just distribution of food and wealth, these systems must be replaced.
Above all we must show our willingness to work for world development. Mankind is one family in which each of us has the duty to help the others…our brothers and sisters.
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